FAMILY PLANNING

One of the major causes of poverty is a lack of family planning. Governments and nonprofit organizations need to encourage poor people to use birth control so that they don’t have unexpected babies, which will only make poorer families poorer.
Philip Kotler

Family planning should be a big concern for developing countries where the resources are scarce and the consuming is more. However, for our communities falling under middle class and lower middle class are least concerned with this issue and this is one of the reasons why they are never out of the crises. Being a woman, I would say that motherhood is the biggest blessing but being a mother is not about giving birth, it is about raising your kids too and unfortunately we have failed in becoming mothers to our kids.

According to the statistics from Dawn( January9 ,2021.)

The report places South Asia among the fastest growing regions in the world and within the region, it marks Afghanistan and Pakistan as the fastest growing populations. Afghanistan has a faster growth rate than Pakistan, 4.5 per couple. But because of high death rates and low life expectancy, the country’s total population is still 38.9m.

Pakistan is an under developed country with a dense population which is contributing to poverty, energy crises and bankruptcy. Moreover, the increase in street crimes and involvement of people in illicit activities are also the consequences of negligent parenting. The biggest dogma in our society is that we consider it sinful to control the number of babies we want. The main reason why people disagree with family planning is the comparison of abortion with family planning. However, the case is not as it seems. Abortion is the killing of a baby but family planning is to control the birth. You can’t kill someone who is not born yet.

Family planning is a must thing after getting married. You should know that you are going to continue your lineage, then make sure that you can afford their expenses, give them a healthy lifestyle ,educate them and make them a gem for society. There are many ways to control the number of your babies and the most basic one is using of protection, you can search the rest on internet or visit your doctor. Encourage family planning through social media, by talking about it to your family and the marriage counsellors. Make your own life better and you will make society a healthy place.

YOUR 20’S

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else.” -Margaret Mead

Life is about acknowledging yourself and do not letting self doubts measure your worth. Coming towards the main point , in your twenties you are surrounded by all the expectations you had from life and some from family too. Let it be your career , love life, your all guilty pleasures and the lifestyle that you have always imagined but the saddest part of the whole story is that you start losing everything meanwhile you are doing your best to keep yourself together. However, there is always an escape from darkness.

Some key facts;

ACCEPT

In our 20’s, we can not accept what we need to know rather we ponder over the stuff we want in life. Somehow, these all things skip us while we are standing firm and it breaks us to the core. What I am referring to is ; our wrong choices , two faced well wishers, some major failures and toxicity that we can not avoid. So, what you need right now is to accept the reality as it is. Accepting the reality will make you a headstrong person and you will not expect from anyone but yourself.

FORGIVE

There is no better revenge than forgiveness. When you await sinking for someone who did you wrong is a death of your sanity too. Leave things on God , they are doing more harm to themselves more than anyone else. But , it does not mean to be dumbstruck and allowing everybody to invade your personal boundaries.

“I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded; not with the fanfare of epiphany, but with pain gathering its things, packing up, and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night.”

― Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner

MOVE ON

Moving on from your past self is the biggest game here. You can work on your ideologies and personality. Start finding the stuff which makes you feel good and enthusiastic. Be with the people who appreciate the person inside you. Be optimistic and welcome every change that is good for your soul and body both.

A HEALTHY ROUTINE

Out of everything aforesaid, making a routine and fixing yourself will help you the most. Stick to your plan when its the hardest to keep up with and trust me, this will bring the best out of you.

“It’s never too late to change your life for the better. You don’t have to take huge steps to change your life. Making even the smallest changes to your daily routine can make a big difference to your life.”

 Roy T. Bennett 

Youth is not a time of life, it is a state of mind. You are as old as your doubt, your fear, your despair. The way to keep young is to keep your faith young. Keep your self-confidence young. Keep your hope young.     

Luella F. Phean

Death

we do not die when we lose our breaths,

we die when we stop fighting ,

we die when we stop living ,

we die when we start fearing ,

we die when we stop loving ,

we die when we leave God ,

we die when we lose who we are ,

we die when we hold back ,

There is no wrong in death , you are meant to leave this place , it is the world of tribulations . Death is the ultimate peace , you are made of soil and you will be mixed up with it , this beautiful soul of you will rise to the skies . This world is made of delusions , do not let these illusions fool you . Your heart is so precious , save it from the dirt of this world.

I WANT TO

I DO NOT WANT TO RUN ANYMORE , I JUST WANT TO STOP MYSELF AND FEEL THE LIFE , I WANT TO TALK TO GOD ABOUT ALL THE THINGS I YEARN FOR AND ALL THE PLACES I WANTED TO SEE. I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THE STUFF THAT MAKES MY HEART POUNDS A BIT LOUDER , I WANT TO ASK GOD FOR THAT SHINE IN MY EYES AND THAT PEACE IN MY HEART , I WANT TO FEEL WHO I ACTUALLY AM…..

WAJIHA

Dead Matter Of The Soul.

A heart so pure like a cascade of wine from heavens , the flow , so ecstatic and the breeze so calm. My soul wanted to feel that purity that I have not , it is not like I never wanted to be sacred , but the whirls of time and tides took away the whole of my sanity. I wish I could take all of the buried dirt outside my heart but the fragments are still there carrying a history of battles not known to many but my own soul. I wish that no one has to translate the desires of soul for they are too sacred for this ugly world. A tear in eye , so beautiful , cleansing all the dead matter of soul , yearning for a sunshine that would make your heart sing louder the beats of divinity.

Blessings , wajeeha.

Improvise , adapt , overcome

Just like there is an edge to every surface , there is a limit to every emotion , every struggle and then you can not be flexible , just like a spring , you reach your elastic limit and break , and now what , all the contained poison in your soul spreads like the foaming particles of perfume in the air and you can sense the energies around you just like the scent of perfume can be sensed .

All I want to say is , do not let the things inside you take over your present and future even though they might have destroyed you in your past but do not let these things be a hurdle in your way . You owe your explanations to Allah and no one else , you owe Him everything , talk about your everything to Him. Wake up and see the very first sun rays and then recite Surah Duha , Talk to Allah about your every matter and then start your day.

I am not asking you to figure out your life in a day , but I can tell that you do not know what might happen today or tomorrow , it is all in the Hands of Allah , pray to Him and work on the stuff , seek strength from Him because people will break you at every stage .

exhausted

we get exhausted when we drift away from what is the Will of God for us . Now , the question is that how a human with ordinary diligence would be able to capture the reality of what Allah gee wants from him , there are no messengers after Holy Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) , the world is getting only materialistic , teachers are preaching out for their money . There are no more real humans but plenty of knowledge . The reason why something is always missing in us is because we are running away from who we are moreover we hand ourselves to the outer environment but guys sometimes when we are not aware ; doing sins , not doing well , going after the world and then our soul stops for a while and directs us to do good and acknowledge the change or either fall into our own constructed pit . Here , at this point , our life meets the turning point , we can either rise to the skies by bowing ourselves to the will of Allah or either we can fall into the deepest of pits by listening to the voice of our hopelessness , unfulfilled desires and the wrong that happened to us . It is beautiful to have a heart that belongs to Allah , nothing in this world will save you except the command of Allah and He guides whom He wills but when you call out to Him , He the “AL-MUJEEB” responds .

prayers and blessings ,

wajiha 🙂

Sometimes the most beautiful form of hope arises out of the most deadliest of the roads . It is not always the straight path but sometimes the most unguided path to make you follow the right path for you . Once you step on it , make sure that universe will support you along your journey . Your dua will reach the sky before you might utter your words . Carry yourself well enough!!!

uncertain but certain

life is so uncertain , you never know what is real and what is illusionary . You do not know what is coming . Death might surprise you the most so does a baby coming out of the mother womb and so does the separation of yourself from you . But the certain thing is that it is all planned by the most powerful Allah. Our heart breaks and it mends up again because we keep seeking for something missing inside our soul . Our bodies act as our weapon , all we have is a soul and somehow sitting alone with yourself you realize how temporary are all the pleasures except the one you seek for Allah. That uncertain satisfaction fuels my soul without letting me know the love and the greatest treasures are hidden within a moment.

THE FIRST CALL TO YOURSELF

“Your worst sin is that you have destroyed and betrayed yourself for nothing.”
― Fyodor Dostoevsky, Crime and Punishment

In your 20’s you have a mindset developed from the experiences you had in your childhood and teen years and the good thing is that our personal growth is our disassociation from our experiences . It all starts with an insight to your soul that what really excites you to the core . How much of yourself is you actually?

you should know that your experiences do not define you although they will impact you and they have made you the person who you are . Let me get this really straight in your head that you will have to disassociate yourself from the person who you were and you have to take the road made for you. It is mostly our external environment that shapes our life till we awake the person inside us , till we win the war that keeps us shaken to our core . Let us practically deal with this together

There comes a time when you are actually exhausted from who you are because the reality is unreal or disappointing and trust me that you are not alone in this world . Do not take the blame of whole world on your head , It is all within you and it is only you from whom you should be at peace . If you were not that person whom you should be then it is alright , take on the road made for you . It is fine if people call you a hypocrite , liar , characterless , disobedient ; just do not care about them because they have not spared finest of humans and there might come a time when you listen all of this stuff from the closest ones and that is the time when the game of fate begins.

Love possesses not nor would it be possessed; For love is sufficient unto love. And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.” KHALIL GIBRAN

GAME OF FATE

fate makes two people meet on unexpected roads, fate gives you goose bumps when you expect the least , from your birth to your death , from your marriage and too your kids and all your life major experiences , it is all written. We have to just play our roles , divine scripture (Quran) is provided to us . The promise of God is known to us and the stories of people like us is mentioned before as well . From things we will suffer , we already know yet we choose them because we are mere humans and it is not easy to awaken yourself when your mind is never programmed that way . Rewire your brain and the course of fate will change too . This universe is the most beautiful example of how your life works and the time never remains same . You lose , You win , You love , You hate , You cry , You laugh , You live , You die . Time never remains the same so make sure that you faith pushes you to the level where your energy surpasses the limitations that exist in your mind , you belief in the Will of Allah will make you unbreakable and Allah’s attribute is Al-Fatih , He will open His doors for you . Imagine the whole universe working in synchronization with your soul , this is where you will realize that you are on your journey moreover He will provide you with the sources that you wont imagine . Trust your matters with God.

WHAT TO DO IMMEDIATELY

BE REAL TO YOURSELF

Be real to yourself . Accept the bad and good in you both , accept the right and wrongs , accept each fabric that you carry . Once you accept things as they are , trust me that they will not matter after that by seventy percent and you have to do that at some point of your life so it is better to do that now instead of waiting too much for them to change . They will not .

LET GO

Let go of the stuff not needed anymore . Let go of the problems which are out of your control , let go of the toxic people in your life , let go of each and everything in your way to growth . Wish yourself the best and move on . It will take time but you have to take the first step and things will be fine , trust me .

work on yourself

work on yourself , work on your body soul and mind . Give yourself the purest form of love so that you attract the most real humans in life. Give up on being fake even though half of the world around you is . Give up on what this society expects and make peace with yourself .

IN THE END

“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”
— C. JoyBell C.